No More Excuses

 It can be hard to ask for help. Do you find that you use any of these excuses to keep you from getting the help you deserve?

 I like to be independent.

You may not want to ask for help from others if you are used to doing things on your own. Asking others for assistance does not mean that you can’t get things done. It shows your confidence, strength, and maturity. You know what you need and you aren’t afraid to ask for it.

I don’t want to seem needy.

If you are worried about asking for too much or seeming demanding, here are a few suggestions:

• Be clear about what you are asking and why you need the help.
• Be sure to thank them. Show your appreciation for their help. They will enjoy hearing how their support made a difference.
• Carefully choose who you ask for help. Ask someone who you know will listen and care.
• Team up with another mom, you can give each other a hand.

 I will wait until someone offers to help.

It’s hard for other people to know the help you need. This is especially true if you hide the problem. People can’t read your mind. They may not notice what you need. Ask for their support and let them know ways they can be helpful.

 I don’t deserve help.

Everyone needs help once in a while. You deserve it. You do so much for your family. Let someone be there for you. Accepting help can strengthen friendships and relationships.

 I don’t know what to say.

Some people will offer to help before you even ask. Other times, we have to ask for the help we need. Be clear and direct. Try saying, “I’m having trouble with this. Can you help me?”

 I already asked, and no one helped.

You may want to give up when you don’t get the help you expect right away. Getting help takes effort.

• You may have to ask more than once.
• If one person can’t help, try asking someone new.
• You deserve support and there are people out there who will give it to you, just keep looking.
•  Your WIN Network: Detroit support team is here for you too. Reach out to them. Call 313.874.2187, they can help you get in touch with resources right in your neighborhood.

Tips for Dad:

Mom may want to do everything on her own. Try to offer your help, even if she doesn’t ask for it.

I understand that I need help, what should I do?

Identify your problem. 

Is it taking care of your kids? Finding a job? Figuring out what medicine to take when you are sick?

Find the person that can help.

This could be anyone from a family member, your friend, or WIN Network CHW. This might also mean reaching out to your boss, doctors, or a number of other people or groups that are designed to help.

Understand that seeking help will pay off in the long run.

You may not feel like you want to air out your problems or reach out for help in the moment, but once you find a solution, you will be more than glad that you did.